I /am/ a lemming!

[cailj]

Actually, I'm not often a lemming, but I kind of like this one because it gives people an excuse to write potentially interesting things in their livejournals.



anoisblue's shower meme:

If you want me to interview you--post a comment that simply says, "Interview me." I'll respond with questions for you to take back to your own journal and answer as a post. Of course, they'll be different for each person since this is an interview and not a general survey. At the bottom of your post, after answering the Interviewer's questions, you ask if anyone wants to be interviewed. So it becomes your turn-- in the comments, you ask them any questions you have for them to take back to their journals and answer. And so it becomes the circle.

Comments

yeah fine

[blackbriar.livejournal.com]

for you i will do anything
especially naked

Re: yeah fine

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. You've lived in Philly for a long time now. What would you say is the thing you'd miss most (hell, the /three/ things you'd miss most) about it if you suddenly found yourself never able to go back there.

2. You've had a lot of relationships in your life. What are the three most valuable lessons you've learned from all those relationships. Not just romantic relationships, but all relationships.

3. Once upon a time, you were seriously into bdsm. Over the years, that has waxed and waned. What would you say your relationship is to it now? Is it important to you? Valuable? Can you do without it?

4. After years of knowing you, I have to ask, why on /earth/ do you like Woody Allen movies?

5. What, when you reach down inside yourself and really think about it, would make you happy?

Re: yeah fine

[blackbriar.livejournal.com]

See how hard you make me, angel?

I need a distraction

[amiev.livejournal.com]

So, yes, interview me! :)

Re: I need a distraction

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. Same question I asked Seth. You've been in San Francisco for a number of years now. So what are the things you would miss most if you were suddenly to find yourself in a position where you could never return there?

2. I'm getting married in five months. What piece of advice can you give me that has helped your marriage the most?

3. If you could photograph any three things in the world, what would they be? What if they were the only things you could ever photograph again, although you could photograph them as many times as you wanted. Would your answers change?

4. When did you first start smoking marijuana, and how did it become important to you? Why did it become important to you? Does it fulfill some physical or emotional need, or is it just fun?

5. What is the most intellectually challenging single thing you have ever done. Not like "finish college", or some process, but one individual thing.

[brenna-edana.livejournal.com]

I know better. *grins*

[brenna-edana.livejournal.com]

Oh, what the hell.

Hit me.

(I know you can. *grins*)

[cai.livejournal.com]

*grins* You sure?

1. You've lost use of your magical man blender. It doesn't exist. You can't combine bits and pieces any more. Of all the men you've ever met, even the ones you've hated, who comes closest? What eventually disqualified him?

2. You've joked a lot about the things that Munchkin knows and doesn't know, and seems interested in or not. But in all seriousness, how would you feel if your daughter was to grow up and into the scene? How about the scene as it is now?

3. Follow up to that -- what about the scene as it is now most annoys you, and what most makes you happy? Obviously there are both good and bad things about it, but limit it down to the worst and the best, if you can.

4. Is there anything, besides your relationship with men, that sticks in your mind as being distinctly /southern/ about your upbringing? Do you personally think there is a "south" that is distinctive from the rest of the country any more?

5. You have one day with me. One day during which you can have /anything/. During which I will hurt you in any way you want, or take you anywhere you want to go, or send you on any journey your mind and body needs. Keeping in mind our relationship, and the fact that I am not a male, tell me what you /really/ want me to give you. There is one caveat -- once you tell me what you want, you would lose your safeword.

[teslagirl.livejournal.com]

please interview me!

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. Ice-breaker question. You hate the town where you live, and you hate the small minded religious zealots who seem to reside there. The lack of culture, and the lack of things to do and people to do them with. But is there anything you /do/ like about it? Is it a good place for your children, is it a good place for gardening, does it have a nice zoo? Anything at all? If not, is there any reason to stay there beyond your husband's job?

2. You often talk about the life you led before you had children. Do you ever find yourself resenting your children as a result? Often times, I have read, women resent their children and husbands for making them into wives and mothers, but then bury that resentment in other things instead of dealing with it. Does your experience jive with this in any way?

3. Your relationship to bdsm is complicated. You seem to need it, but at the same time, you need to hate it. Why do you think that is? Is it a coping mechanism or a way to deal with the fact that you can't get what you need? Or is it something else?

4. What is your degree in, and where did you get it? I've known you for a long time, but I've never known the answer to this.

5. I really want to ask what you ever saw in C, but I'm not going to. Because I think that would be far too lengthy an answer. Instead, I'll ask a related question. What does online life give you? Is it fulfilling in some way that your real life isn't? Other than playing scrabble and reading livejournal, what do you do while you're online? And why?

[velvetknife.livejournal.com]

Please to be interviewing me. :)

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. I've asked everyone else about the place they live, but goddamn, you live in Rochester, and I know what a craptastic place that is. So, by way of my "where you live" question, I'll ask -- have you ever gotten a steak sandwich at the Char-Pit, and if not, why the hell not, and get your ass over there, and will you please get me one while you're at it... *grin*

2. I've read your writings about the differences between "poly" and "Polygamous," with poly really being about the scene, and polygamous being about the person. When did you decide that you /were/ polygamous, but that you were /not/ poly? Did you have some experience in the poly scene that drove you away, or did you just never go there to begin with?

3. What is the most difficult thing about being in multiple romantic relationships? What is the most rewarding? I know I ask multiple questions in each question, but such is the nature of who I am. Deal with it. :)

4. Everyone has something in their past that taught them something about themselves they'd never known before that moment. Maybe you learn something you hate about yourself, or something you love about yourself, or something that just outright surprises you. What was that moment for you? Or, at least, one of them, since presumably, many such instances occur for everyone. Perhaps the most recent one.

5. You're given one night to do anything you want, and have it all be erased by the morning. The caveat is that, while noone else will remember it, you will remember it vividly for the rest of your life. What would that one night be spent doing?

[kablooey.livejournal.com]

meme me :)

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. Mmmm. Austin. I love Austin. I want to live there. Given your experiences (I do recall right that you did or do live there or near there, correct?), what advice would you most give to someone who really wants to live there? Not the simple advice like "here's where you should live" or "here are the best restaurants", but honest, deep advice. Something about the city itself. If you are not there or haven't been there, tell me the same thing about the place you currently live.

2. You have been, at some point, a performer. Tell me your favorite moment in your performance history, and, on the other hand, your least favorite moment. Which performance taught you the most about yourself?

3. How long have you been online, and have you ever had an experience that honestly /scared/ you while being online? A scary stalker boy, a moment where you were afraid you were seriously addicted, a missed flight because of an online argument, or the like?

4. How long has your relationship with J been going on? When was the first moment that you realized, without a doubt, that he was right for you? Was it something he did? Something you just felt? A moment that just seemed so right that nothing could ever take that feeling away? What was it?

5. You're a child again. There's a clown standing in front of you. You know, a big painted circus clown, not Rush Limbaugh. And he smiles at you and offers you a balloon animal. Do you 1) run terrified, 2) step on his foot and scream and steal the animal and run terrified, 3) stop in terror with a deer-in-the-headlights look in your eyes, 4) kick him in the shins repeatedly until he falls down or 5) take the animal, say "thanks, Mr. Clown", and go about your merry way? And if your answer is 5, have you seen professional help about this?

[geredan.livejournal.com]

So, cai. Anything you want to ask me?

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. At what point did you realize, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that you absolutely could not ever live in Missouri again?

2. I know most of the lessons you've taken with you from your previous relationship. And most of the ones before that. But what about your friendships? What are the most important lessons you think you've learned from the many strong (and even the weak ones) friendships you've had over the years?

3. What are you most looking forward to about your upcoming nuptials? Anything you're particularly nervous about?

4. If you had a good, well-paying job that you loved, would you object to keeping your little girl...er... SO at home, taken care of and pampered, or would you, somewhere deep inside, be resentful that she isn't out working?

5. If I told you that you had a beautiful body, would you (please, pretty pretty please) hold it against me?

[vixyish.livejournal.com]

Please interview me. :)

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. Tell me about your relationship to rain. Everyone has one -- especially people who live where you live. What is your favorite kind of rain, what is your least favorite kind? Any particular rain rituals? (i.e., rainpuddles, hot chocolate, etc.)

2. You're limited to meeting one new person in the course of the rest of your life. This person is going to become a major part of your life and you can never get rid of 'em. What qualities do you want this person to have? i.e., what do you /most/ want in someone who's going to be around you all the time? How about someone who's going to be your best friend? Are the answers different?

3. At what point did you know you were polyamorous (sorry, badconductor, won't do it again!)? Was it a slow process towards acceptance, or just a BANG-there-it-is kind of experience? Anything in particular that was difficult about it for you?

4. You have likened singing to breathing. But if you were to suddenly wake up one morning, mute, unable to produce any sounds, what would you do? Is there some artistic form (your drawing, perhaps?) that you would turn to in order to fulfill your need for expression?

5. Other than being involved with more than one sexual partner, is there anything unusual or different about your sexual preferences, or do you consider yourself pretty vanilla?

[pencat.livejournal.com]

Ok, I'm not done with kablooey's totally (it's gonna be up today) but interview me :)

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. Now that you've experienced the South, at least partially, is there anything you've learned to appreciate to such an extent that, were you forced to leave the South, you would be sad to have to go without?

2. What is your professional goal? Do you have a particular long-reaching, pinnacle type goal? The ultimate, "this is what I want to be when I grow up" type of thing?

3. When you got married, you kept your last name. Was this something you had to think about, something that you already knew you would do, or something you had to debate with your fiance about? Why did you make the decision you did?

4. You're limited to three cities for the rest of your life. They can be places you've never been, or places you've spent your whole life. You'll never be able to visit anywhere but those three places. What are they, and why?

5. Is there anything you learned about yourself during the process of separating from your husband, that you had never realized before? Something positive /or/ negative? (Or both?) Any piece of advice (short of "dont' do it") that you would give your newly-married self if you could go back in time?

I'm more than slightly anxious about this, but...

[autumngrrl.livejournal.com]

Interview me?

Re: I'm more than slightly anxious about this, but...

[cai.livejournal.com]

I really want my first question to be why you feel anxious about this, but I wouldn't insult you with that question. Instead, I'll just say that it's been a long time since either of us should have had reason to feel anxious, and that you don't have to worry about that, I promise. :)

1. I remember your first play party. Very long ago. I remember your reaction to it at the time. Where has your relationship to bdsm, and to the scene, gone since that time? What is their roles in your life now? Have you walked away at any point?

2. People get involved with gardening/growing things for various reasons. What was your reasons for initially getting involved in growing vegetables and such? It may seem like a silly question, but what do you get out of such activities?

3. Have you ever lived anywhere but in the New Englandy area where you currently live? Have you ever had any desire to move out of that area and to someplace completely different? Do you consider that area to be "home" in the deep, abidig sense of the word?

4. What is the single hardest part of being you? What is the easiest part of being you? Is there anything that you wish you could change about yourself to make your life easier? Anything about yourself that you wouldn't change no matter how difficult it made your life?

5. Who, besides whoever brought you up, has had the greatest influence on the person you have become? Why? Is it because of negative pressures they exerted, or positive ones? Do they know how important they are to you?

[doctorpepper.livejournal.com]

Iiiintervieeeewww meeeee!

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. So it's been a week and a half. What do you miss most about New Orleans? What do you miss least (don't say the heat or I'm coming to strangle you)? What do you think, in the long run, you will miss the most?

2. You just sold your 14th novel, you are a worldwide celebrity, you are in production rights discussion with Lion's Gate for the movie of Simon, and Bishop is a series of movies with Johnny Depp. You have houses all over the world, and Scout has unlimited penguins. You have more money than you know what to do with. So, uh, gimme a dollar! No wait, wrong thing. I meant, what are you going to do with the rest of it? Leave it to your kids? Charities? Which charites and organizations would you most like to support? What do you want your charitable legacy to be?

3. It's the grand opening day of the Vim and Vigor Cafe. What's on the menu?

4. What are the three most positive traits of each of the three people you like least? (They have to be people you've met online or in person, and you can use codenames if you are afraid they might read your journal.)

5. Your dad was right. You /are/ the messiah? Any final words for the generations to come before we nail you to the cross?

[hopeyhopey.livejournal.com]

you've asked interesting questions of a bunch of my friends, so I figure what the hell, let's see what you come up with for me. interview, please? :)

[cai.livejournal.com]

1. After having lived in Chicago for a good long time, you're now dealing with a new city and new people. What are the major differences you've been able to figure out thus far about the two cities? You've gone from wind to rain... do you enjoy extremes of weather? Why?

2. Even though your marriage didn't work, there had to have been some good things. What good things, emotionally and mentally, did you gain from the marriage? How about physically? Get any good loot?

3. Don't be offended by this next question -- you've gone through a series of brief relationships since your breakup. Why do you think that is? Do you feel like you have a need to be in a relationship? Are you afraid of being alone? Is it just the hot sex? What draws you so quickly into deep and intense romances?

4. Is there anything about you that you absolutely can't stand? Something that you keep saying you're going to change, but never really get around to it, or just can't figure out how to? If so, what is it? And why do you think you have trouble changing it?

5. Corrollary -- what is the one thing about being you that you would never change, no matter what happened to you? Anything you wouldn't give up for anyone? Or, in alternate words, is there something so /you/ that if you were to lose it, you wouldn't be you anymore?